"SHE"

We are still unsure who created this world. But whosoever did it knew this very well that the world can't be run with either of the chromosomes.

So the creator sent both the Adam and the Eve to the Earth. It means that the creator never distinguished Adam from Eve & Eve is equally responsible as Adam is in making this world the way it is today. But haven’t we pushed today’s Eve far behind Adam? Isn’t she exploited in every possible way?

A woman who gives birth is herself not preferred for the birth. People desire a boy. And if she is born her family feel robbed with it. Her struggle starts from the day she enters the world.

In villages daily chores are thrown upon her. Reason: she is to get married. In cities she is sent to school & even college but her education goes untapped when she is not allowed to work.

Girls always outperform boys in X and XII boards but very less pursue further education. Parents don’t want their daughters to go outside their respective states for studies. There has always been a scarce of girls in prominent IIT’s as well as IIM’s.

When a few makes it to the working stage they have limited choices which are safe, secure and a full 9 to 5 job. The ambitious women who wants to be a model,  an actress, airhostess, journalist, corporate, RJ, VJ, musician, IAS etc beleaguered against all the odds they have to face.

The media, film & fashion industry is notorious for casting couch. The Hindi films are continuing with their 40+ old actors who are always casted against a new actress aged 20-25 years for each film. Another example is James bond movies which exploit females only to add some masala. Similar is the concept of item dance in Hindi films.

Big corporate likes to have a female secretary to add charm & beauty to their office. In professions like police, journalism, corporate etc woman is underestimated. Males don’t like a female boss. Kiran Bedi though most deserving person for the Delhi Police Commissioner Post was overlooked, thus she resigned.

It is getting very tough for a woman to work peacefully. She is only considered for her beauty and not her brain. The exclusive Miss World/Universe contests’ are cashed only on her beauty.

A male child is preferred because parents want returns in theirs old days. And I am not blaming them. Everybody wants to feel secure in his old days. The girl will be married, so she will not earn and give money. It is only the son who can do this. But this is not the sole reason. The society norms have created a hell for the Y-chromosomes.

Hitherto, a girl lives with her parents they are always tensed about her purity & sexuality. They want to keep her safe and preserve her till her marriage. Why??

Because in our society views about a girl can be manipulated to such an extent that she could be tagged. This ultimately risks her marriage and it’s her family who has to bear the brunt. The struggle never stops here.

Parents are always in a hurry to get her married & to get rid of the burden of responsibility. And once marriage takes place it is she who has to leave her home, who has to adopt a new name (say, Mrs. Ram Kapoor). Her identity gets lost as if she is a property and has been bought. As a property is once sold the owner gets the keys. Similarly, she once married wears a mangal sutra, sindoor, sari, bindi, burqha.

I want to meet the person who created these laws. What I can say is that it is a man dominated society. Men don’t trust their own selves. Husbands enforce such things on their wives to protect them from other men & they themselves indulge in women exploitation in some way or other. Like, Polygamy & Triple Talaq is legal for Muslim men in India. Many Muslim wives are mostly kept in home and if go out then have to be entirely covered in burkha. Many households are only run by women with nasty men busy in gambling and drinking. Turpitude man beats her wife, leaves or kills her for dowry & pressurizes her to give birth to a boy. Man doesn’t stop his dominance here, some go on to the extent of illegal trafficking of women & opening brothels.  

When the answer to the controvertible question that whether the supreme power of the world is “he or she” is unknown then how can we be so prejudiced towards the human she? How can we consider her fragile and limp? Are we unaware of the hidden powers of a woman? Have we forgotten her different avatars? Like Goddess Kali she can devastate everything as Rani Laxmibai did to the British. As Saraswati she is the bank of knowledge and art like the legend Lata Mangeshkar. Like Goddess Lakshmi she amasses wealth as the richest Christy Walton or Alice Walton. But one role that nullifies every other role is that “she” is also a mother. Everybody in this world living or dead, achiever or loser, creator or destroyer, ruler or follower, thinker or non thinker is a child of one or other she. Mother has been given the most superior place in this world. She can’t even think her child getting the minutest of injuries then why we kill her, assault or mistreat her. The film “Juno” very beautifully portrays this when a girl aged 20 named Juno got pregnant and decided not to abort because as a mother she can’t kill her child.

Politically speaking India’s sex ratio is 933 females/1000 males and female infanticide is high. Eave teasing which is not even properly defined is common while rapist usually are not caught or let off. If the practices continue the future looks bleak & that day is not far off when there will be only grooms and no brides.

Most of the married women in India are homemaker though they are not given due importance as their husbands perceive that their wives do nothing. India functions because of its working class which mostly constitutes of men. The urban class enjoys at least a one weekday off but the homemaker don’t enjoy the same. Think for a moment, that if our loyal homemaker strikes and go off the work for few days, then will our husbands be able to cope with both work and home? We all know the answer. As India depends on its working class. The working class depends on ladies working at home. So India will stop functioning if our ladies gets off work.

My views in this article are not targeted towards any specific group. They are my personal observations. Some might say that I have taken a full stand for women though she is also blamed for epic wars like Mahabharata, Ramayana or Trojan War.

In encapsulation I will say that Parents love to have daughters. Some fathers wish for 2 or 3 of them but our society norms and culture prevents them from doing so.

But those girls who survived and nurtured well did wonders. Look around and you will see “She” is pervasively spreading the magic. From daring Barkha Dutt to imaginative Mira Nair, from courageous Sunita Williams to patriotic Kalpana Chawala, from the Queen Elizabeth to heart throbbing Shakira, from the gorgeous Aishwarya to in-command Sonia Gandhi, from powerful Agatha Christie to disciplined Kiran Bedi, from dreamer Bachendri Pal to mother of all Mother Teresa!!!

My inspiration is “Rachida Dati” the 1^st Muslim Cabinet minister in French president Nicholas Sarkozy’s team. She returned to work 5 days after giving birth.

So encourage her & let her live freely. Give her education, teach her self defense & show her love. If you’ll introspect you’ll realise She is no less than a son.


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